Don’t Tell Me How You Feel

I’ve sadly neglected my blog space for the past few months, but I assure you that I have been writing. The third book in the Maggie Lyon Mystery series will soon be available, and a few other projects are expected to see the light of day. In addition to working on novels and plays—some fun, some more challenging—I’ve done quite a bit of reading. I’ve also been observing global events and wondering where all of this business will lead.

It seems several conversations and interactions with people these days include comments and concerns, and among some of the most frustrating, which have me rolling my eyes, I am reminded of a 2017 book I read recently called The Death of Expertise by Tom Nichols.

On page 143 he writes: “This fusing of entertainment, news, punditry, and citizen participation is a chaotic mess that does not inform people so much as it creates the illusion of being informed. Just as clicking through endless Internet pages makes people think they’re learning new things, watching countless hours of television and scrolling through hundreds of headlines is producing laypeople who believe—erroneously—that they understand the news. Worse, their daily interaction with so much media makes them resistant to learning anything more that takes too long or isn’t entertaining enough.”

How appropriate for our times, but the book’s purpose goes even further. Nichols writes extensively about facts versus opinions. In one chapter, he relates one of my favorite stories of a college freshman standing up to a professor with decades of experience, and when the novice ends his argument with, “Well, my guess is as good as yours,” the professor responds, “No, it isn’t. My guess is much better than yours.”

I’m not millennial-bashing by the way. On the contrary, I know several extremely gifted people who fall into that age range, and they are the hope of the future. I also know a few people whose opinions I once respected who seem to have given up on experts in favor of declaring that their beliefs somehow hold as much weight as someone who has spent decades searching for the facts in a scholarly manner.

Nichols writes that so-called experts occasionally get it wrong, and in the fields of science and medicine, new discoveries come along often enough to disprove old ideas, which makes it seem like the experts were wrong more often than they were. And then we mustn’t forget the biased studies and “alternative facts” presented to us through various media outlets. In the end, I occasionally find myself in situations where the conversations begin, “I feel…” or “I believe…” or “I think that…”

Someday I’m going to have the courage to say, “I don’t care what you feel, believe, or think about…” but at the moment I still enjoy having friends.

© 2019 by Patrick Brown

To learn more about my books, especially the two featuring Maggie Lyon, visit my Amazon author page at: http://www.amazon.com/Patrick-Brown/e/B005F0CYH2/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1?qid=1419885131&sr=8-1

 

6 thoughts on “Don’t Tell Me How You Feel

  1. “Well! Isn’t THAT special!” – Just kidding, of course. You’ve been missed, and we’re glad you’re back. The time away seems to have yielded some profound insights worthy of meditation. Thank you for sharing. In the meantime? While still enjoying your friends when they are behaving beneath their best, you might consider a wry smile, reply “Really?”…and turn and walk away without looking back. Welcome back, Sirrah!

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  2. Welcome back, Patrick…I’ve missed your blog! Good essay, indeed. I often think back at my parents’ philosophy – both loved pretty much by everyone – and that was: Don’t talk politics or religion to anyone including those who are your apparent “best friends.” I find myself in that position more often than I would hope. But…here’s the deal. I will not forfeit 50 plus years of love and respect because of our differing opinions re politics. I look at the whole person, good and decent. We would be there for each other in the blink of an eye. And without us ever discussing it, we just know to never talk politics or, for that matter, religion. I guess that is what “respectfully agreeing to respectfully disagree” means..

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  3. You certainly give a thoughtful, intelligent approach to “The Death of Expertise.” Like many people today, I avoid talking politics…..I’m rather dismayed with BOTH sides, it’s like a Circus in Washington. The drama and emotions of today make the “news” questionable. But question we must! Let’s hope before I die that things settle down and civility becomes the norm. I kind of doubt that, but we can always hope. Welcome back Patrick, your blogs are ALWAYS interesting and insightful.

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